nutella sandwiches


enough of the boring stuff, what about eating?! we all must be rewarded for enduring the blah blah blahs about money. and what better reward than that true food of the gods, nutella? i don't know how they got it to be that good; i have suspicions of semi-illegal ingredients hidden in the jar, but never mind. it's the closest you can get to crack at the grocery store. let's just be grateful.

back in my school days, the preferred nutella vehicle was just a big spoon, or maybe if you were really daring/lazy, your finger. now, we're all adults and while we still can't break our addiction we can at least indulge in more sophisticated methods. although, to be honest, the method below is hardly sophisticated- all the ingredients can be bought from your local grocery store and assembled in about 10 mins. dress it up with some home-made raspberry sauce and you've got the dreamiest, creamiest, most luscious sandwich ever. maybe i'm groveling a little to make up for the last posts, but you can't say i'm subtle.


nutella sandwiches


1 pound cake; Sara Lee frozen is good.
nutella

slice pound cake 1/4 inch thick. spread with nutella and cover with another piece of pound cake. using a grill pan and a heavy skillet, or a sandwich press, press together until warm on the inside and slightly crispy on the outside.

you can also use good french bread and a little sea salt. i've also seen nutella used as a filling in deep fried ravioli, using pre-made wonton wrappers (thanks giada!) i'm sure you can put nutella on broccoli and it would be amazing. more experimenting with nutella to come...

getting to yes


we're all business this week at caketime. i just posted about saving and now i'm going to tell you about the single most important influence on my professional life so far. i'm not a high-powered anything, but i have found that this book has enabled me to deal with almost any situation in a way that provides the best outcome for all parties involved. when i first started reading it, i read it over and over, probably reading it a total of six times before i put it down. i felt a little like franny in salinger's franny and zooey, practically assured that the re-reading would, by some magic, change my life. i can't tell if it's because i read it so much or because itis just that good, but almost immediately it changed the way i dealt with other people.

outwardly, this is a book about negotiation tactics. usually we think of negotiations as attempting to find a medium between two positions, apparently this is called "positional bargaining". for example when you ask for a raise and request a far higher number because you assume your employer will meet you somewhere in the middle. "getting to yes" not only disqualifies this tactic, but replaces it with something they call "principled negotiation." in a principled negotiation, you express your common and differing interests to find the best common ground. it doesn't really sound revolutionary, right? truly novel and brilliant ideas are usually a little boring. i think that's why i read the book six times- i was confused as how something so simple (treat your enemy like your friend, essentially) could have such a profound impact on day to day life.

i've now taken all the lessons from "getting to yes" to heart and it has helped me get out of so many pickles. i even use some of the tactics on grace, and she will often start laughing because i've also explained the book to her, so she knows exactly where i'm getting it from.

funnily, the follow-up book to "getting to yes" is called "difficult conversations." i think i need that one too!

Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In

saving #2: pay yourself first


one of the things that financial people always stress about saving is to make sure you're saving diversely. while we all implicitly understand "diversity", especially if you went to my high school, not many of us understand what it means in the context of money. next week we'll cover diversifying your savings, but in order to diversify, you're going to need something to work with. this bring us to another principle financial people talk about, although not enough for my taste- saving systematically.

now that we know *where* to put our short term cash funds (you're all supposed to shout "high yield savings account!"), we need to know *how* to put it there, or in other words, where to get the cash for the stash. i used to think that the way to save money was to not spend any money, i.e. i'd get paid and then pay all my bills and then try and use as little as possible for the rest of the period and then if i had any money left over right before i got my next paycheck i'd stick that in my savings account. not only was this a very stressful system, because i was constantly trying not to spend any money, but it was pathetically ineffectual- for some odd reason, i never seemed to have any money left over. this brings me back to my first point about managing your money, and something i promise to beat like a dead horse because it is THE MOST IMPORTANT THING YOU CAN DO FOR YOURSELF, which is keeping track of your expenses. once you have a sense of what you spend things on, then you can see how much you can afford to save.

notice the odd phrasing of the above sentence- "afford to save." this is where i work some psychic voodoo on you for you to realize that all our (or at least my) ideas about savings were all backwards. instead of putting saving money as the last thing on our list, the thing we do when we've already spent it all, we need to move it up to the top of the list. hence the "pay yourself first" tag. when you start to create a budget for yourself, your savings amount should go right at the top with your rent, phone bill, etc- all your fixed expenses. and you should know how much you can afford to save each month because you've tracked your expenses and created a budget. why pay your landlord, zabar's, fairway, fresh direct,etc before you pay yourself? sure, it sounds a little hokey, but in all honestly, increasing your savings rate will afford you a host of options in the future:

1. the ability to live on less that you earn. this is a very important trait especially in the now volatile job market. if you ever get laid off unexpectedly, you won't need to hold out for the same salary you made at your previous employer (although, of course, you should try to) because you now know how to live on less. conversely, if you ever get a raise you can bank the whole increase and continue to live on what you earned previously. i'm still living on the first yearly salary i ever earned- which was about 4 years ago.

2. a larger pot of cash sooner for your emergency fund, your house, your new business, your round-the-world vacation. saving systematically allows you to see your money growing at a steady clip and plan for your future goals better. (omg i sound EXACTLY like my father. how did this happen??!!!)

3. money for retirement. okay, i know, we're only 1/3 of the way through our lives, and here i am blabbing about retirement. we don't even have kids yet! it does seem really weird to be worrying about this now, but the truth is that the sooner we start saving the more money we will have. this is due to the best of all the miracles: compounding interest. see: here, here, and here. also, most importantly, at this point in our lives we can borrow money to subsidize our dreams; you can get a loan for a house, a car, a new business, your kid's college, but no one is going to lend you money to rent out that villa in tahiti and isn't that so much better than spending your 75th winter in that 5th floor walk-up?

all savings accounts will offer you the option of automatically transferring money at any given point in the month. for example, i have my ING account withdraw $X dollars from my bank account every 15th and end of the month. this way, when i start spending my most recent paycheck, i don't have to worry about saving anymore; it was already done. even if you only put $5 into a high yield savings account every time you get your paycheck, you'll get in the habit of savings. and you'll get excited about watching your money grow. this might be bordering on obsessive, but every time i have a lousy day i always get excited at the prospect of checking my account balances because they've usually increased while i wasn't noticing. i can't think of another circumstance where something grows most fruitfully when you ignore it, but an automatic savings account is a rare gift.

one last note: if you are in the situation where you have some considerable debt and are waiting to save after you've paid down your debt, please don't wait. i know that the interest you're paying on that credit card will always be higher than anything you'll earn in a high-yield savings account, but still please don't wait. think about this: you've paid down that credit card and are now debt free, but still lack any emergency savings. unexpectedly, your wisdom teeth need to be pulled and because dental insurance is always bad, end up stuck with significant bill. without a cash cushion, you have no option but to use your credit card, landing you right back where you started. i know it sounds bleak, but it has happened to actual people, pretty often, and it such an emotional struggle to recover from. don't let it happen to you. you can save *and* pay down your debt. it is possible!

p.s. i'm sure you get it by now- i'll post this super cute picture hoping you think it pertains to this post in some way so that you'll read it. thanks for reading!

mashed spiced sweet potatoes


here’s a little secret: grace cooks a lot too. in fact, she is a great cook and often tries out recipes i’m intimidated by: fried chicken, homemade pasta, pies. i’m good at more forgiving recipes and i have real knack for making lemonade out of lemons. i mean this both metaphorically and literally, but mostly metaphorically. inevitably, something goes horribly wrong in the kitchen and next thing you know there are plumes of smoke rising from the oven, or the top wasn’t screwed on tight enough and –oops!- there is more than enough salt in there, even for me. more often it's the “hey it's time for dinner and all we have is....tuna?” dilemma. when these things happen, i usually take over. the results are never as bad as i think they’ll be, but there are few and far between that are actually good. these sweet potatoes are great.
it started out innocuously enough. i wanted to make roasted sweet potatoes, as per my easy roasted vegetables recipe. what i didn’t count on, but i know now, is that the high sugar content in sweet (duh!) potatoes makes them much more unpredictable than regular potatoes, and thus they cannot be given the same treatment as their starchier cousins. not knowing that at the time, i coated them in olive oil, sprinkled them with salt, and roasted them. at the end of the allotted time, i opened up the oven and to my shock, saw this:



now as anyone who has had a disaster in the kitchen knows, the first instinct you have upon discovering a disaster is to throw the whole thing out and order chinese. i was on my way to doing that when i realized, upon picking up the sweet potato, that the interior was soft. hey, i thought, what if i just scrape out the inside and mash them a little? i did just that, adding some cream, spices and sugar. oh man, it was good. creamy, sweet, and warm, it would have been perfect with some pork chops. maybe next time...

here's another, better recipe than my own- amended to add the same spices
mashed spiced sweet potatoes , adapted from america's test kitchen

2 pounds sweet potatoes (3 medium) peeled, quartered lengthwise and sliced 1/4 inch thick
4 tablespoons (1/2 stick) unsalted butter, cut into four pieces
4 tablespoons heavy cream
1 teaspoon sugar
1/4 teaspoon cinnamon
pinch cumin, nutmeg and cloves
salt and pepper to taste

combine all ingredients in a large sauce pot. cover and cook over low heat, stirring occasionally, until the potatoes fall apart when poked with a fork- about 40 minutes. remove pan from heat and mash potatoes with a masher until smooth. you won't have funny burnt alien potatoes, but you'll still have a delicious creamy dinner.

updates + design


as you may have noticed i've done some light housekeeping around here; adding a blogroll, a search feature and some other nifty doodads. please check them out!

in other design news, i've been looking at these websites recently as examples of what is now dubbed "web 3.0". the first is an adorable look at what happens when you enlist a large group of people for a common task and then post it to the internets.the second is a really engaging look what a post-click world would look like. and the third, which is particularly dear to me, charts the locations of sweet tea in virigina. whenever we drive down to virigina i eagerly await our stop at the first chick-fil-a we see because it means sweet tea. although adding toothache-inducing amounts of sugar to your iced tea doesn't seem like a good idea in these more reasonable parts of the country, i assure you that those southerners are in fact the more enlightened ones.

The Sheep Market

Don't Click It

Sweet Tea

what i am (links)


reading:

the road by cormac mccarthy
deeply disturbing post-apocalyptic coming of age story about a boy and his father. i've almost had to stop reading because the depictions of a burnt/destroyed landscape are so chillingly realistic, but the endurance of the main characters and the deep love they have for one another is worth the discomfort. i'm not done yet, but already the prose is so poetic and sparse that i'm sure it will warrant a second read.

the american heritage cookbook
i picked it up last week at a used bookstore and have hardly been able to tear myself away. a full history of why americans eat what they eat, from the jamestown days to today. it's out of print now, i'm sure partially due to the fact that none of the recipes included in the book seems palatable by today's standards (turtle soup anyone?), but it's a wonderfully entertaining culinary history lesson.

no one belongs here more than you by miranda july
there a lot of aspects of miranda july's work that i really like, but this book was not one of them. essentially the same story told over and over of a pathetic, but humane, person desperate for love. a little too needy for me, and besides, i think we're all a little more functional than her uncharitable descriptions.

watching:

raiders of the lost ark
perhaps this is my first time seeing it, but i think i vaguely remember some scenes, so maybe i watched it when i was a kid? regardless, i had never see the crazy ark-shoots-out-blue-electric-light-and-kills-everyone scene, which was so obviously created by someone on drugs. uhhhh, wtf?!

ballroom dancing
sounds boring right? well, it was so boring that while we were watching it, some of us fell asleep. the ones that didn't however were treated to this gem. seriously?! nirvana? these people must have been on drugs too.

eating

liptauer from zingerman's
grace got me this recently and it couldn't be more perfectly timed. i had been desperately wanting something, anything from zingerman's for so long and this cheese was right at the top of my list. i think i ate at least 1/2 the jar in the first sitting.

macarons
my favorite cookie done up to the superlative at la maison du chocolat. one of my best friends from college/high school was in town for the weekend and being the chocoholic that she is dragged us (i'm sure we weren't willing!) to the upper east side for a taste of la maison's famed hot chocolate. while chocolate isn't really my thing, i was more than happy to gaze longingly at the macarons (these are the french style- with two flaky shells and some sort of ganache filling- not those coconut ones). i couldn't afford but one and i chose raspberry. it did not disappoint.


making

curtains
i just bought this fabric at ikea and need to learn how to make a roman shade. we have a sewing machine and everything, i just need to find some sort of pattern or how-to. the only permanent damage that having six cats left was a irreparably ripped roman shade.

wanting

a miranda july project i really dig is learning to love you more. i've been wanting to do "assignment #63: make an encouraging banner" for a long time now. i've already sent in "#9: draw a constellation of someone's freckles." i got a book which compiles some of the best ones and this one in particular of "assignment #37: write down a recent argument" had me rolling on the floor laughing!

you could buy me anything from this eyeball museum gift shop and i would be happy. who wouldn't?

loving

so i'm admittedly a little crazy, but i think the fact that i've spent over 2 hours in past two days looking at and loving every picture on this blog of photos TAKEN BY CATS (well, only one cat) makes me actually insane. on the other hand, they are eerily beautiful and poignant, right?

franny's


amazingly, down the block from my apartment just happens to be one of the best casual places to eat in all of new york. and i'm not alone in this assessment either. in the past month, i've been to franny's three times and each time the menu was almost entirely different, due to their commitment to farm-fresh produce, but it was consistently very thoughtful and delicious.

while it is billed as an upscale pizza place, i don't often order pizza. it is good pizza, of course, but nyc has lots of great pizza to offer and i'd rather go to a place like grimaldi's or difara's if i want the real pizza experience. also, i'm not a huge pizza fan. what is really remarkable about franny's are the smaller appetizer dishes, which are unique and inspiring.

recent dishes i've ordered: (just paraphrasing here- the menu sounds much fancier)

salad of bitter greens with an anchovy vinaigrette
potato croquettes (the server explained that they looked like dunkin' donuts' munchkins!)
beets with peppers, walnuts and cheese (which i'm attempting to re-create at home)
coddled egg on crostino with bottarga (bottarga is dried fish roe shavings)
homemade pancetta on crostino with french butter
vanilla panna cotta with saba (like an italian flan)

yes, all of it was lovely, even the salad. i'm not a fan of bitter foods, so i was surprised when i liked this. the only downside to franny's is that it is a little expensive for my budget- around $30 per person for a meal.

last time i was there was on a six-person excursion (as the party liked to call it) and we had a hell of a time figuring out the bill. below was our attempt. one of the worst feelings is going out to dinner with friends and feeling like you paid more than you should have. this elaborate tally, however dorky, ensured that no one had to feel cheated.

Franny's
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